For most people, life is made up of a series of decisions. The decisions that we make usually involve a choice regarding where or on what we will be spending time. Last week we looked at the importance of spending time with God and how it relates to the most important commandment in the Bible – ‘You must love the Lord your God with all your
heart, all your soul, and all your mind.” (Matthew 22:37-38 – NLT).
To spend time in relationship with God is not only edifying but also a privilege. The more time we spend with Him, the better we get to know him, and therefore the deeper our relationship grows.
However important our relationship with God is, we must also recognise that we live in a world of relationships with others as well. Therefore “A second [commandment] is equally important: ‘Love your neighbour as yourself.” (Matthew 22:39 – NLT)
Of course the Bible has a lot to say about loving our neighbour: how, when, where and what we should do when living out this love – such as in the story of the good Samaritan or John who says “We know what real love is because Jesus gave up his life for us.” (1 John 3:16 – NLT)
But we are still faced with the question: when we have to make an “either or” decision regarding showing love, what or who do I choose first. Who of my neighbours should take first priority in my life?
I believe that next to God, the first priority in life is my spouse. This relationship is more important than with my children, work, friends, or even ministry. Peter says that husbands should treat their wives in such a way that their “prayers will not be hindered.” (1 Peter 3:7); When Paul instructs Titus regarding the qualifications of an elder,
his concern is that the person must live a blameless life – and then he starts with the relationship with his wife (Titus 1:6); The same order is described in 1 Timothy 3:2 where Paul gives similar instructions. When Paul deals with Godly relationships in Ephesians 5:21 to 6:9, he naturally starts with the relationship between husband and wife.
In making decisions regarding where we plan to spend our time, we too often justify other priorities. The refrain goes something along the lines of “If I do not work these long hours, I will not be able to provide for my family”; “The children needs my attention, we can talk
later”; “I am doing God’s work, but once that is done, we can spend some time together”; “My friend really needs me right now.”
The fact is that a sound, Godly relationship with your spouse provides the foundation for Godly success in every other area of your life. Go on – set your priorities straight this week! Make the right decision and you will experience God’s blessing on your efforts.Tweet